After Labor.

Share

Now you know the whole dramatic labor story.  Nathaniel was an easy pregnancy and a terrible birth and he’s an amazing little boy and was a great baby.

The first few days after I had him and was going through the recovery and visitors I wasn’t really thinking about anything.  The birth had left me feeling scared but everyone kept saying ‘You got a beautiful baby so you just forget about it’ or, they didn’t want to hear about it.  I realize now it was because they didn’t understand or didn’t want to hear the long story.  A few days after we got home is when it really started to hit me.  I started having nightmares about my labor and feeling panicky for no reason.  I would start to feel like I couldn’t breathe and I couldn’t think because I was having flashback to the worst parts of the labor.  I never felt like I was going to hurt me or the baby, it wasn’t him that was the problem for me.  It was this horrible birth experience.  He was an amazing baby, slept and ate and pooped and repeat.  He rarely ever gave me a problem and continues to be a very sweet boy (with occasional bought of lunacy…you know like a regular almost three year old).

It was the hospital experience and how I was treated that I kept flashing back on.  And the pain and the length of labor and the whole thing.  You can’t really explain these things in words and those of you that have been through these things understand.  I had a nurse tell another nurse that I was too large for her to ‘handle’.  When they turned Nathaniel they were very rough, both times, and I almost felt like I was in a torture chamber.  Hands were shoved roughly into me to feel around and check my cervix and make sure I was progressing according to plan.  I was pumped full of too many of some drugs and not enough of others.  I had a nurse during my recovery refuse to help me and refuse to give me my medicine.  They would take Nathaniel away from me and at times not respond to the things I needed.  All of this combined into what I later grew to know was mild post traumatic stress disorder after pregnancy and labor and, nobody would listen to me.

Linking up with longtime blog homie Shell for her Pour Your Heart Out!

They are more than jeans

weightoctober
Share

Saying goodbye to a friend.  My jeans.  You may think this sounds crazy but read on.

I reviewed some clothing last summer and I had ordered them in sizes I thought I was because those are the sizes I had been the last time I ordered, but, they didn’t fit.  This was right around the time I needed a new pair of jeans and I was so depressed that the jeans wouldn’t even go up over my thighs.  Convinced that the sizing must just run small (which it does run a little small but not THAT small) I went to a big box store and grabbed my usual brand in a size 24 (the size I had been wearing before which yes is huge.  I had had Nate and needed bigger jeans but before him I was wearing an 18/20, still big but it was the smallest I had been in awhile.) and, they didn’t fit.  I went and got…a size 26 and they fit but they were tight and not only that but they had a belly roll hanging over them.  I bawled in the dressing room, sweaty and distraught that I had gotten so big.  A size 24 was the biggest I had ever been by far and I was able to blame it on having a baby for only so long but I had lost 42 of the 50 pounds I gained in the first few weeks.  This was fat.  I bought the size 26, wore them unbuttoned and hated it, a few more months went by and then I saw this picture:

This is me and Nate, me at 337 pounds, 3XL dress size and size 26 (almost 28) pant.

Now, I love this picture and I loved it at the time, Nate was adorable and we were having a good time but it was the final straw.  I wasn’t going to hide my head in the sand anymore, I was going to lose weight and I was going to do it the right way this time and I was going to feel better about myself.  You guys have been reading along on the journey since early November and I have been doing it.  Slowly but surely and then there was a day, I don’t remember when but it was probably around January, that I could get the jeans up as long as I was wearing my spanx.  Then in February, I could wear them without spanx and without bulge.  Over the past several months I have worn them again and again because they are comfortable and it was such an accomplishment for me to get into those jeans.  In the past month or so, they have been too big.  A little bit is that they have stretched out but most of it is that they are too big because I lost weight.  They are almost to the point of needing a belt but I was going to wear them until they fell apart because I’ve been scared of the smaller jeans in my closet.  So scared that I haven’t gone anywhere near them.  They were jeans that didn’t go over my ass several months ago.

Then, it happened.  The bane of fat girls, skinny girls, medium girls…all girls who have a thigh rub problem.

I was fine when my van did this to them:

And later this:

I kept wearing them because dammit they were HARD to get into to and they took work.  They taunted me in my closet every day and made me work that much harder because I was going to get into those jeans.  And now, I have to say goodbye to a dear friend, my jeans.  They were part of my final straw, they were a motivator and they were a reward.  Now I’m 34.8 pounds lighter, 29 inches smaller and feeling good.

I had to face the smaller jeans tonight and you know what?  They fit.  They are a little snug but they fit and I am excited to say goodbye to them soon too!

Nopalea…helping promote wellness

Share

I have frequent joint inflammation and pain since I’m trying to move a lot of weight around when I exercise and I’m always looking for a new thing to try to help ease that inflammation until I lose the weight, enter Nopalea (No-pah lay’uh), what is this you ask?  It’s a drink made from the Nopal cactus (Opuntia Ficus Indica) fruit.  I learned recently that the Nopal cactus has healing properties that have been used for a long time!  The Nopalea drink helps your body neutralize toxins and reduce inflammation.

Let me tell you a little more about this drink, it helps your body by using antioxidants called Betalians that are SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN to help the body reduce inflammation by cleansing itself of toxins to help promote optimal health.  There have already been over 3 million bottles of Nopalea sold from this 12 year old company.  With inflammation being the leading cause of pain the mission is to help people achieve greater wellness.

I’m going to be taking advantage of being able to try this for free (pay shipping) so I can see for myself just how well it works, you can too by calling 1-800-203-7063.

If you suffer from inflammation and want to be able to help your body heal itself then check out Nopalea!

*this is a sponsored post however all opinions are my own*