If you are new around here, most weeks I have Tirade Tuesday where I ramble mostly nonsense about whatever is annoying me at the moment.

Today is about the holier then thou attitude of message boards when dealing with parenting or pregnancy or trying to conceive (aka TTC).

It’s a time when you are looking for understanding and compassion and that is generally not what you get.  When I was pregnant it was a bunch of either still pregnant women or new parents going on and on about breastfeeding, not breastfeeding, nitrates and how everything everyone was doing was wrong.  Very obnoxious.

When I was a new parent reaching out for basically just a ‘hey I’ve been there and it gets better’ instead I would get lecturing about what was and wasn’t acceptable.  How I was a bad mom for not forcing him to sleep on his back or how I was cold hearted he didn’t co-sleep…whatever it happened to be.  Your kid is yours and you can parent however you want to.  Unless it’s something that your kid would be taken away for…and I have a feeling feeding your kid a hot dog every now and again or forgetting sunscreen isn’t on the list.

Trying to conceive is a whole other world that I get in now.  We’ve been trying for awhile and you naturally start researching it but everything is acronyms and I have to google half the stuff to even know what they are talking about.  PCOS, TTC, ABC, 123.  Then I feel like the asshole because I have a kid and I haven’t been diagnosed with a problem.  The ladies there make me feel like since I’m not missing a tube, an ovary and working with half a vagina and don’t get their alphabet speak I’m not cool enough to be a part of the group.  Guess what bitchy ladies?  It sucks when you are trying to get pregnant and you aren’t no matter who you are or if you already have 10 kids.  Sure it’s a little easier to deal with but it is still a disappointment every month.

Something you figure out real quick when you are pregnant, parenting or trying to get pregnant is there are two types of people.  The people who think they made the mother trucking earth and know everything and they poo rainbows.  Then there are the people that say ‘this shit is hard but it gets easier’.  I get so annoyed with the first group!!